It goes without saying that your wedding day is one of the biggest days of your life. You have invited lots people that are close you to be there to share this momentous occasion. You want them to enjoy the day and take home lots of great memories. One of the things you need to decide on is whether you want a silent wedding or if people are able to talk whilst the wedding is going on. Historically “noisy” weddings were common but there has since been a shift in mindset and it seems more appropriate and respectful for there to be silence during the ceremony. With a room full of predominantly Indian people who have not seen each other for months or even years, it is clearly going to be more challenging to create a quiet atmosphere over a noisy one. So one strategy is to tell the Maharaj to make an announcement to the guests that a silent wedding has been requested. Now this could end up like being back at school – as the noise rises the Maharaj has a mini rant and every one becomes quite. A couple of minutes late, a few uncles at the back start making some noise and then the volume goes back up again as everyone else thinks it is alright to talk and this cycle repeats itself until the end of the ceremony. Well at the end of the day people are people and if they have travelled 2 hours to be there on a Saturday and are not engaged in the ceremony – they are going to talk! To be honest we have all been there and seen this happen!!
So we have put together 5 tips to help you avoid this from happening and to create a peaceful ceremony, which engages with your guests!
Tip 1: All Guests should be able to see the Mandap
Make sure people can see the Mandap and what is happening inside – to do this you need to have the Mandap on a raised platform so people at the back can see. Ideally the more rows you have, the higher the mandap should be raised! Also if your venue can accommodate theatre styling, more people will be able to see than if a conventional layout is used.
Tip 2: Choose a Maharaj who can communicate well
Choose a Maharaj who can also speak English and explain what is going on during the ceremony. If he explains the rituals and why they are being done – this is a sure fire way to grabs peoples attention and make them genuinely interested on what is happening. If he can add a little bit of humour you are onto a winner!
Tip 3: Have a Wedding Ceremony Program
Make sure you have a little leaflet on every seat, which outlines to each guest what rituals are being performed and the meaning behind it. This mean that along with hearing what the Maharaj has got to say, the guests can visually follow what is happening!
Tip 4: Make the environment comfortable
The worst thing is if it is too hot, there is no water and the seats are crammed together – and then after all this the Maharaj announces the ceremony is going to be 3 hours long – worse than sitting on a flight with Ryanair! So make sure there is a bottle of water for everyone, the temperature is controlled, there is sufficient space for seating and the ceremony is not overlong!!
Tip 5: Play some Background Music
There are many Musicians & DJs and that coordinate themselves with the Maharaj to play certain music at certain parts of the ceremony. This creates a lovely atmosphere and dramatic effect in some instances which will keep your guests well engaged in the wedding ceremony.
Tip 6: Hiring a Toastmaster
Hiring a Toastmaster for your wedding is a great way to make sure your wedding day flows very well when there are a hundreds guests. The Toastmaster can explain each step of the ceremony if you wish to let the Maharaj focus on the ceremony. The Toastmaster will announce that the Bride & Groom would like a quiet wedding and will ensure guests remain quiet during the ceremony too.